Why Control
Sometimes not asking why can save you some heartache.
I realized today that I often use that question to understand people and their experiences. I have always been curious about the lives of others and the way my brain needs to process stories is by trying to delve deeper into their person. "What is it like being you?"
Sometimes asking too many questions reveals too much information. I'm a sensitive person and I oversympathize with people, so knowing the details of someone's experiences really gets to me. It's my own fault.
Anyway, I feel like when meeting new "potentials," sometimes less is more. When you start dating someone, do you really need to know right away why they broke up with their ex? Why they've dated half the city? Why they believe the things they do? You haven't even built a repoire yet. I think until you can master the art of small talk, you should keep the skeletons in the closet. Why go somewhere that may trigger insecurity? We're vulnerable as it is in the face of a new mate.
All of my insecurities surface when I start dating someone new, especially if I just met them, and for the first time ever I realized recently how to tame them. Tame the insecurities, not the man, that will come later. hahaha
Everyone questions how they come across to someone they start dating, because they want to be liked. "Just be yourself," I hear my grandfather's voice tell me. It's true. Do what you normally would do. Does that make sense? I caught myself being indecisive over what type of drink to purchase recently in the presence of someone I'm interested in. What is that about? Like it matters? I went for the ginger ale, cuz that's what I wanted damnit. So ridiculous.
I guess it's about feeling them out. Feeling them OUT, not up. Get out of the gutter you dirty minds. Get used to their energy and allow yourself to live your life the way you do. Nobody's going to judge you if you opt for something carbonated in the convenience store. Be yourself, and if they don't like it well it's their loss right?
Down the road, when there's a certain amount of trust built, then I think it's a safer time to "go there." It's like the rule about farting in front of someone. Once you can fart in front of someone and not be totally mortified, then you can probably talk about exes and... not be totally mortified.
Yeah Yeah Yeahs,
Katie
And this is a super creepy video. Happy Halloween.
I realized today that I often use that question to understand people and their experiences. I have always been curious about the lives of others and the way my brain needs to process stories is by trying to delve deeper into their person. "What is it like being you?"
Sometimes asking too many questions reveals too much information. I'm a sensitive person and I oversympathize with people, so knowing the details of someone's experiences really gets to me. It's my own fault.
Anyway, I feel like when meeting new "potentials," sometimes less is more. When you start dating someone, do you really need to know right away why they broke up with their ex? Why they've dated half the city? Why they believe the things they do? You haven't even built a repoire yet. I think until you can master the art of small talk, you should keep the skeletons in the closet. Why go somewhere that may trigger insecurity? We're vulnerable as it is in the face of a new mate.
All of my insecurities surface when I start dating someone new, especially if I just met them, and for the first time ever I realized recently how to tame them. Tame the insecurities, not the man, that will come later. hahaha
Everyone questions how they come across to someone they start dating, because they want to be liked. "Just be yourself," I hear my grandfather's voice tell me. It's true. Do what you normally would do. Does that make sense? I caught myself being indecisive over what type of drink to purchase recently in the presence of someone I'm interested in. What is that about? Like it matters? I went for the ginger ale, cuz that's what I wanted damnit. So ridiculous.
I guess it's about feeling them out. Feeling them OUT, not up. Get out of the gutter you dirty minds. Get used to their energy and allow yourself to live your life the way you do. Nobody's going to judge you if you opt for something carbonated in the convenience store. Be yourself, and if they don't like it well it's their loss right?
Down the road, when there's a certain amount of trust built, then I think it's a safer time to "go there." It's like the rule about farting in front of someone. Once you can fart in front of someone and not be totally mortified, then you can probably talk about exes and... not be totally mortified.
Yeah Yeah Yeahs,
Katie
And this is a super creepy video. Happy Halloween.
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